The Jerry Springer Show
I suffered terrible harms as result of “what happened.” Kendra, I feel I was the subject of so much cruelty. It’s not the betrayal or the obvious hypocrisy of your mock indignation. No, it was the stonewalling and the gaslighting that caused a colossal amount of hurt, injury, and lasting trauma. This is the ugliest thing I have experienced in my life. I’m still in disbelief that any of this happened.
You were blatantly and heavily flirting with him, and in the middle of this display, you said to him that Tish lets you go camping or stay one on one in hotel rooms with men.
That night at Mad Hannah, I witnessed you make advances towards a married man over the course of at least seven beers. You were blatantly and heavily flirting with him, and in the middle of this display, you said to him that Tish lets you go camping or stay one on one in hotel rooms with men. You held up our relationship as a tease. It was very clear that you were saying this to entice him.
In the aftermath of the phonecall with Tish, you had me believe that I had gotten it all wrong. That, I shouldn’t believe my lying eyes. You made me feel like a criminal, and the gaslighting worked. I immediately fell on my sword with Tish to protect your relationship. I walked back what I said and accepted all the blame to cover for you. You used my good deed as ammo to DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) me. You used it to malign me and prevent me from ever being able to defend myself to Tish. You told Tish I was crazy while out of the other side of your mouth you said “space and time” to me. By capitalizing on my guilt, you absolved yourself of any accountability.
You WANTED to treat this married man as a boyfriend.
The real reason behind this maneuvering? What I conveyed to Tish was exactly true. You had become newly and suddenly infatuated with married man who had “free pass” nights from his wife. You would stop at nothing to pursue a relationship with him where you could treat him like a boyfriend. You pushed me out of both yours and Tish’s life for one reason only. You WANTED to treat this married man as a boyfriend. You were willing to be shamelessly two-faced while you seemingly didn’t care at all about inflicting enormous hurt, harm, and unnecessary psychological torture on me in order to get away with it.
Dear friend, this is the most disgusting thing you’ve done in your life.
And today, the nature of your relationship with Nate is absolutely the fuck inappropriate, just like I told Tish it was. I was never wrong about that. Your relationship with Nate exists entirely in private. You tell Tish “he’s a happily married man.” But I think you know that is gaslighting. Tish has zero idea about what that relationship actually looks like from the inside. What feelings you have for him or how you have seduced him. His daughter has a father that is in love with a woman that is not his mother. You are not “just friends” with him, Kendra. It doesn’t matter if you have a pass. You are the other woman.
I wrote down a dozen examples of egregious and horrifying gaslighting that you used to pull this off. Furthermore, it is clear that the stonewalling was deliberately employed as a tool for coercive control. You were courting Nate, while having me believe I was a criminal for suggesting such a thing might be possible. You were saying “space and time” while giving no end date to me so I wouldn’t say anything to Tish or stand up for myself. Overnight, you had deleted our years of friendship so you could keep having this fling and do so without suffering guilt or extending a shred of human decency. This is moral bankruptcy on your part. And just a fucking reminder, here. Stonewalling is ABUSE. Gaslighting is ABUSE. This was monster shit. You were engaging in ABUSE so that you could have a dishonest affair.
But here’s what is really vile. You became a person who hurts people with something that looks an awful lot like glee. You and I had a long and very significant relationship, and in one moment you pretended like it never existed. Worse, months into the affair, the vibe and the expressions on your face was a contemptuous smirk directed towards me. You looked like you were proud to be fucking this guy. While, I can’t prove a history of a sexual activity between you and Nate, so many things point strongly towards this. But that doesn’t matter. It looked like you were genuinely thrilled that your relationship with Nate hurt me. That’s terrible enough on its own.
The years and years of being a good friend to you and Tish should have earned an honest and fair conversation. I was cool, calm, and collected and wanting to make amends. I certainly didn’t deserve to put on a no-contact list or have the most severe punishment thrust upon me—all for the fucked up reason that you were infatuated with a married man.
Your cruelty and callousness through all of this is despicable. Your refusal to let me speak freely even once is monstrous. You never once provided a reason why I was shut out and I legitimately did not know why. I still don’t, actually. Your total lack of acknowledgment of anything I tried to say was fucking mean. I can’t overstate how painful and violently cruel this is. Your perverse motives for ostracizing me was so dishonorable and so shameless.
You refused to disavow the dozens of posts that prove so thoroughly that this father of a teenage girl is a pervert. You are happily playing ghislaine fucking maxwell to this disgustingness.
One thing I know about you is that mimicry is your love language. This deeply inappropriate, and yes romantic, relationship you have with a married man—a sociopathic narcissist—seems to have turned you into a person who lacks all human decency. You refused to disavow the dozens of posts that prove so thoroughly that this father of a teenage girl is a pervert. You are happily playing ghislaine fucking maxwell to this disgustingness. It’s not a good look that you are spending hours getting black out drunk one-on-one with a married man who then goes to post a picture of vibrator sex toy with the hashtags #drinkingbuddy #tightywhities. You are his drinking buddy and you wear tighty whities by the way. Is that a coincidence?
You have lied in some capacity to every significant person in your life to pursue this affair.
You used your position and power to do monstrous things and to do so with impunity knowing you can get away with making me look like the bad guy. You kept doing this ugly thing telling yourself it is OK because you had succeeded in telling convincing lies to your girlfriend Tish and to Nate’s wife, Christine. This is depravity on a sociopath level.
I am a good person, and I was a good friend. My only crime was telling the truth and actually well intentioned. The outcome is unbelieveable. You stomped me out to die, while you did the thing I got in trouble for saying you were going to do. This was betrayal on a sociopath level. Layers and layers of deception and evil.
This saga is Jerry Springer trashy. I feel real fucking confident that I was never the bad actor. I am not the trash can, here.
Do the right thing, Kendra. Stop being a monster. End the pervert affair.
At least offer an apology for the harm you have done.